NYTimes: “Gay and Evangelical, Seeking Paths of Acceptance”


There’s an article in the NYTimes this morning discussing the situation that Evangelical Gay and Lesbian Christians find themselves in as they try to reconcile their Christianity with the way their fellow Christians often treat them…

Link: Gay and Evangelical, Seeking Paths of Acceptance – New York Times.

For some gay evangelicals, their faith in God helped them override the biblical restrictions people preached to them. One lesbian who attends Pullen Memorial Baptist Church in Raleigh said she grew up in a devout Southern Baptist family and still has what she calls the “faith of a child.” When she figured out at 13 that she was gay, she believed there must have been something wrong with the Bible for condemning her.

“I always knew my own heart: that I loved the Lord, I loved Jesus, loved the church and felt the Spirit move through me when we sang,” said the woman, who declined to be identified to protect her partner’s privacy. “I felt that if God created me, how is that wrong?”But most evangelicals struggle profoundly with reconciling their faith and homosexuality, and they write to people like Mr. Lee.

There is the 65-year-old minister who is a married father and gay. There are the teenagers considering suicide because they have been taught that gay people are an abomination. There are those who have tried the evangelical “ex-gay” therapies and never became straight.

Mr. Lee said he and his family, who live in Raleigh, have been through almost all of it. His faith was central to his life from an early age, he said. He got the nickname Godboy in high school. But because of his attraction to other boys, he wept at night and begged God to change him. He was certain God would, but when that did not happen, he said, it called everything into question.

He knew no one who was gay who could help, and he could not turn to his church. So for a year, Mr. Lee went to the library almost every day with a notebook and the bright blue leather-bound Bible his parents had given him. He set up his Web site to tell his friends what he was learning through his readings, but e-mail rolled in from strangers, because, he says, other gay evangelicals came to understand they were not alone.

“I told them I don’t have the answers,” Mr. Lee said, “but we can pray together and see where God takes us.”

This article picks up from where an article that I wrote earlier this year leave’s off. The struggle that the Church is dealing with is that there are people in the Church who are fully committed to Jesus and to being transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit, who have experienced profound healing and renewal by the action of the Spirit in their lives, but who’s sexuality has not been changed….

There’s more background material and information at the link above. Thanks to Fr. Andrew Gerns for the note pointing me to the article.

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  1. One of the things I notice that gets ignored in debates on this topic is the difference between what God CAN do and what God DOES do. A God who can create entire galaxies can probably change people’s sexual orientation. But as you note, that doesn’t seem to be happening.
    Interestingly, the church has no problem accommodating itself to people who have not been healed of the kinds of conditions Jesus healed in the gospels: blindness, deafness, paralysis, etc. This fact raises two questions for me: 1) If God is not healing the blind, why do we expect him to heal the gay? And 2) If the church has no problem accommodating wheelchairs, why can it not accommodate gay couples?

  2. I agree. I don’t know about anyone elses Bible, but mine says that once I am baptized into Christ, I’m no longer Jew or Greek, slave or free, male nor female in Galatians 3:27-28. If in God’s eyes one is no longer male nor female, then how can they be gay or straight?

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