Rome had a philosophy. It worked, after a fashion. Machiavelli would articulate it centuries later: better to be feared than loved. Control through overwhelming force. Peace through the constant reminder that resistance gets you crucified.
The Pax Romana was real. But it was built on garrison towns and roads lined with crosses and was mostly focused on keeping trade flowing.
Into that world, Jesus says: try something else. Build a community on forgiveness instead of fear. On reconciliation instead of retaliation.
Notice something curious here – he keeps saying “you,” but it’s plural. All y’all, if you’re from the South. Yinz, if you’re from Pittsburgh. This isn’t self-help spirituality. This isn’t about your personal spiritual journey. It’s a vision for how actual groups of people – people who annoy each other and disappoint each other – can exist differently but still peacefully with each other in the world.
Let’s be honest about where we are. We’re living through a time of profound political division. I’m not talking about policy disagreements – democracies need those. I’m talking about something else. The way we’ve learned to see people who voted differently as enemies. The way a yard sign can end a friendship.
We’ve gotten very good at a particular kind of revenge. Not the dramatic kind – most of us aren’t plotting elaborate schemes. But the small, daily kind.
The unfollowing. The uninviting. The cold shoulder. The way we’ll help someone until we find out how they voted, and then suddenly we’re busy.
Here’s the insidious part: we’ve convinced ourselves this is justice. We call it “boundaries.” We call it “self-care.” We call it “not being complicit.” Sometimes those things are real and necessary. But sometimes – and we need to be honest with ourselves here – sometimes it’s just revenge dressed up in therapeutic language.
We’ve learned to exile people from our lives with surgical precision. And we feel righteous doing it. It makes us feel like we’re powerful – even when we are manifestly not.
So Jesus is asking us to consider a different way. And we need to be very clear about what he’s not saying.
He’s not saying accept abuse. He’s not saying stay in dangerous relationships. Anyone who’s told you that has misunderstood the gospel.
But he is saying something challenging: the community he’s building doesn’t operate on the logic of retaliation. It breaks cycles instead of perpetuating them.
Think about the cycles we’re trapped in. Someone hurts us, so we withdraw. They notice and feel rejected, so they harden. We interpret their hardness as confirmation that we were right to withdraw. Round and round.
Or the generational ones: Dad and Uncle Mike haven’t spoken in fifteen years over the family business. Now the cousins don’t talk either, and half of them can’t remember why. The feud has become its own justification.
Or the neighborhood feuds: the tree branches, the property line, the parking spot, the dog. It’s absurd when you step back. But it’s everywhere.
Jesus says: what if you were the one who stopped it? What if you absorbed the hit and didn’t pass it on?
I’m not entirely sure what this looks like in practice. I suspect it’s different for each of us. But maybe it starts small.
Maybe you’re the one who reaches out first after the argument. Not with a fake “let’s just move on,” but with a genuine “I want to understand you.”
Maybe you stay in the difficult conversation when everything in you wants to storm out. You keep showing up to the family gathering even though you know Uncle Richard is going to say something infuriating. And when he does, you don’t take the bait. You ask him about his grandkids instead.
Maybe you volunteer alongside someone you disagree with politically. And you discover that the person you thought was ruining America actually shows up every week to serve meals at the shelter. Funny how that works.
Maybe when someone in this church hurts you – and they will, because we’re human – you don’t just quietly disappear. You speak the truth. You create space for repentance and reconciliation.
Maybe you refuse to participate in the whisper campaigns. When someone starts the gossip, you say, “Have you talked to them directly?”
These are small things. Ordinary things. But I wonder if their effect might be revolutionary.
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Jesus describes a world where the poor are lifted up, the mourners are comforted, the peacemakers are honored, and those who suffer for righteousness are named as blessed.
There is no sense of comfortable stasis in the Kingdom of God.